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Being positive on the web

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“That girls does not deserve all the attention she gets”. “How can she be so annoying, I really hate it when she talks in her videos.” “That guy looks so gay in his latest blog post.”  These are only a few of the comments I have read on social media lately. They were not directed towards me but still got me upset. I have been a victim of online bullying myself, several years ago, and I do not want others to go trough the same thing I did.

 

“Throw kindness around like confetti”

 

Unique and special

But I am not going to sit here and tell you about that miserable experience. There might be a time and place for that, maybe one day. But not now. I want to turn this post into a positive thing. Just like more people should be online, when using social media. We are all people. We are all unique and special. Everybody is beautiful in their own way. Nobody is normal and you should not always stick to the norm.

Instead of immediately posting “gosh, her eyes are so far apart” , just think about it for a second before you press send. Take a step back and think about who could be reading that. Would you want to read that on social media if someone said that about you? No, probably not. Unless you have a very thick skin, you will get hurt. Why would you want to do that to someone else?

 

“Be the reason that someone smiles today”

 

Smile

So instead of saying something potentially hurtful, make people smile. It will have a positive effect on you as well. There is nothing better that ‘seeing’ someone smile and knowing you did that, you made something positive happen. Tweet, pin or post more happy things. It will not only make you feel better but it will brighten someone else’s day as well.

 

Right now, take a moment and do something good for another person. Be positive and let the happiness shine. There already is enough sadness and hatred for us to read online.

We need more happy stories.

So, take a moment and make someone smile!

Love, Ella

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  • Oh Ella. As much as I love the way you think and see things, I gave up on positivity on the web a long time ago. Wherever you go, there are insults, harsh comments and criticism. It used to make me sad aswell, but now it is a matter of ignoring it and moving on. We just cannot stop such childish behaviour.

    Having said that, I haven’t had any bad experience with negative comments just yet.. and hopefully I’ll be able to remain reasonable, calm and careless! :’) x

    • I’m not saying you should be happy on the web all the time either. I’m just saying; think twice before you’re gonna post something hurtful about another person. It is not worth it.

      XX

  • You’re right, if you don’t have something nice to say don’t say anything! The thing that sometimes shocks me is when I see rude comments made by something that runs a blog and a youtube channel… It made me unsubscribe from them, obviously… Loved this post, you said it all with simple and kind words 😉 xx

    Gyudy’s Notes Of Beauty

    • I am too saddened by the sight of bloggers/youtubers saying such awful things. I just unsubscribe!

      Thanks for reading lovely!

      XX

  • Sam

    Herroooo, great post. Keep at it Ella 😀

    • haha, thanks Sam!

      XX

  • Yes that’s true Ella, though I also think we should always bear the “Emperors New Clothes” fairytale in mind, and tell it as it is. The problem that you refer to arises when people make these comments out of spite…

    • True, spite is an awful thing and it’ll probably never disappear. But if some of us do their best to say something positive once and a while we might make the internet a happier place :).

  • Aw this is such a lovely post, Ella. 🙂 I was a victim to online bullying too once (nothing too serious but it definitely thickened my skin) so I know what that feels like. I do struggle with showing kindness – especially to strangers on the internet – but I always go by “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.” xo

    • hihi, thank you!
      It’s like you said, if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all 🙂

      XX

  • I love this post! I’m all for spreading positivity, and although it clearly says something about the person that is spreading hate and being a troll, I still feel sorry for them. Only people who are unhappy in themselves or with their own lives go out of their way to be mean online, behind a screen and that’s sad. People should just be nice, if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it and all that. Hopefully some of those online bullies will see this post and think twice about the next mean thing they are about to send. Let’s hope so anyway! <3

    http://www.hayleyeszti.blogspot.com

    • True :), I truly hope this post will change someone’s opinion and make lots of people smile!

      XX

  • Suzanna Taylor

    Such a nice post. My goal in life is to be as kind as possible, and I try my best to make other people feel happy which actually makes me feel pretty good too haha.
    macinmybackpack.blogspot.com xx

    • That’s a good goal in life 😀 !

      XX

  • This is such a sweet post, love it, Ella. I completely agree with you but unfortunately there are just way too many bullies hiding behind their computers these days. 🙁

    Reflection of Sanity

    • I have noticed that :(. Some people don’t even realise that they can actually hurt someone by just tweeting, sharing, posting a negative comment.

      Thanks for reading 🙂

      XX

  • Jemma Humphreys

    It’s nice to be nice! Lovely positive post Ella, and a great read. I dont think we can go wrong with a little positivity 🙂 ! xx

    Jemma xx
    http://www.dorkface.co.uk

    • Thank you for reading!
      You don’t need to be positive all the time but just make someone smile once and a while 🙂

      XX

  • Love this post, it’s always best to just be nice! If you really can’t say anything nice, just exit out and don’t say anything. Like they say, “it’s nice to be nice!” 🙂

    Jessica
    the.pyreflies.org

    • True, Like I said, there’s enough hatred and sadness out there. We could use some more positive stories!
      XX